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Transferring Thought to Action

by: Gordon s. Bruin M.A. C.M.H.C, InnerGold Counseling Inc.

“Those who expect to reap the blessings of freedom must, like men, undergo the fatigue of supporting it.” -Thomas Paine

Perhaps the greatest challenge in Recovery is in getting ourselves to do what we know we need to be doing whether we want to do it or not.  In fact, it is critical to acknowledge that in most cases we would rather put some things off to a later date than deal with them right now.  We might think that dealing with an issue will be easier down the road but in most cases that is not true.

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Porn Addiction Questions Answered

What can I do to stop looking at porn?

Is there something to take to over come porn addiction? What if you have Aspergers does it compound the problem?

Gordon, I have asked this question before in a round about way but I will ask it more directly. My problem for the last year or so has been wanting to live this life. I want to live the fantasies that I am constantly confronted with and I am trying to gain the perspective to help me understand that it would only destroy my life but I currently can’t find that conviction. Any thoughts?

Can castration be an ultimate solution to stop porn addiction or will it not make any difference? It certainly seems to alter animals behavior?

I find that whatever my first trigger might be, escalates rapidly until I feel compelled to respond (acting out). How can I recognize what triggers my behavior?

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Stop Masturbating

Does this make you feel uneasy?

Do you feel threatened?

Congratulations, you just recognized your limbic system, now learn how you can manage the limbic system.

Most of you have tried to stop masturbating but after a time the behavior returns. Guilt and decreased confidence are typical feelings. Many are past the guilt having learned to justify those feelings away in various ways. If you came here seeking help we guarantee that if you follow the steps, you will find it.

You have trained your body and brain to use the behavior of masturbation as a survival process. It has become a part of life like eating and drinking. Pornography in some form usually becomes a tool to feed the behavior. Will power alone is simply not enough. How many times have you tried to stop? Think about it. If willpower were enough, you wouldn’t be here. Still not sure? OK. . . never masturbate again. Leave this site and never repeat the behavior ever again. Exactly. . . you have played that game and tried that before and the behavior returns.

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