Help For Pornography & Sexual Addiction

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We compare battling addictions to two wolves.

Little Eagle, a lively youngster, approached his wise grandfather, White Mountain, late one afternoon with tears in his eyes.

“Grandfather. There is so much about the ways of life that I do not understand. There are some boys who are mean to me and they always want to fight and do bad things. I’m not afraid of them but I do not want to fight. Why are they so mean?”
White Mountain looked lovingly at his grandson and thought for a moment. “There are two wolves in my heart that are engaged in a ferocious battle,” he said.

Little Eagle wiped his teary cheeks and stared up in wonder at his aging Grandfather.

“One wolf,” the Grandfather continued, “is evil. He is a very vengeful, angry, and violent wolf. He is deceptive and makes trouble everywhere he goes. The other wolf is good and he is our friend. He brings peace, love, joy and all of the great virtues wherever he goes. These two wolves battle inside the hearts of every man, woman and child who walk this Earth.” The grandfather paused again, then went on. “This battle is raging inside the hearts of those boys who taunt you, Little Eagle. “In fact, this same battle is going on inside of you too. It is a terrible struggle.”

Little Eagle pondered this new idea and thought some more about the mean boys. “But, Grandfather,” he asked with great curiosity, “which one of these wolves will win this great battle?”

“Ah! That is a very wise question, Little Eagle,” the Grandfather replied. “The wolf that wins is the one that you feed the most.”

If one feeds the addiction, it grows stronger but if one feeds the healthy self then it grows stronger and can easily manage the dark wolf.

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“There is no such thing as a day without challenges and obstacles to work through. Learning to look at challenges and obstacles as opportunities for growth is helpful in developing an optimistic outlook on life. Expecting, even in the slightest degree that you should not have to face challenges and obstacles today is a set up for frustration, irritation, and depression. Striving for small perfect moments throughout the day is a positive way to approach the world.”
- Carol Dwec

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Learning to find joy in the journey is one of the greatest secrets of life.

The nature of life is that it is full of challenges. It is in facing these challenges with faith that makes it possible to make progress and grow stronger.

Ghandi once said, “Joy lies in the fight, in the struggle, in the suffering involved not in the victory itself.”

These are wise words to remember. We must continually move towards a way of being and not be so concerned about a particular destination. There is no destination that does not lend itself to another one in the future. That is why the InnerGold system is about becoming someone by the regular practice of doing dailies based on the 5 keys to the language of recovery which are acceptance, surrender, awareness, mindfulness and faith.

It is the obstacles we face that grants us the opportunity to become stronger and more compassionate towards others.

We can commit ourselves to keep moving forward and put a smile on our face despite the challenges that we might face!