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My spouse says, “I want you to sit down and watch with me, it will enhance our relationship.”
… Should I?
Listen to what Gordon has experienced through many years of counseling.
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My husband is looking at pornography. How can he possibly or does he still love me?
… in most instances, yes he does.
A difference between men and women is men generally are not emotionally involved with pornography.
It is just the visual of the body.
Talk with your spouse to see what you can do to help.
Should I engage at looking at pornography with him?
… NO! The end result is frustration, irritation and does not form the bond with one another.
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Q: Am I not available enough for my spouse or giving them what they want?
A: I don’t look at this addiction that way. A spouse can be totally available and very responsive in an intimate relationship. It doesn’t really have that much to do with the addiction. Yes it can be trigger if there is a fight and it can be a challenge if a spouse is not responsive. They do play into it but it is not a spouses fault if they choose to act out.
If there are those problems in a relationship, it is the responsibility of the spouse to communicate with one another.
It is always a challenge between a husband and wife. Men on average like a physical connection 2 to 3 times a week. Women generally are ok with once one to two weeks. This is generally speaking but as a general consensus this what I have noticed as I have counseled with couples.
