Help For Pornography & Sexual Addiction

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I post frequently to pornography addiciton forums. I commonly respond to individuals coming clean for the first time and admitting they have a problem with porn or sex addiction. Over the past 2 years I have noticed an interesting trend on these forums.

Many who frequently post talk about their addiciton and say they want help but many don’t do anything to get help after posting. One man who posts on a forum admitted he had an addiction a year ago. He started posting in order to find “an accountability partner and others” to help him be accountable to his addiciton. He regularly posted and went through more downs than ups. He came back a few months ago and finally admitted he needed something more.

This is a great “DUH” moment for an addict. I went 15 years of my life justifying that I could do it on my own before I finally had my ‘DUH” moment. Better late than never. It is the moment realized where one admits they need serious help. All addicts need this help it just takes some a while to get to the point of surrendering to the fact that they CANNOT do it alone. What this man was doing was posting to the forum as a crutch to make him feel that he was “at least” doing something. This crutch was a form of him justifying his acting out. He would post to make him feel like he was doing something.

The point is to get help and not delay. There have been amazing inroads in recovery and it is very possible. We simply have to take action. Getting better is a process and does not happen overnight but it can happen. So the question is…Do you really want to get better from this addiciton or are you just trying to put band aids on it to make yourself feel better?