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People are given to wondering what would have happened if they had done differently: what would have happened if they had turned the other corner, what would have happened if they had taken the other road. Of course, we can’t help wondering, but these are things we seldom know for certain.  We can speculate as to the probabilities of what might have been, but seldom, if ever, could we definitely determine the full and ultimate consequences of the decision we didn’t make or of the things we didn’t do.  Even if we could go back, and even if we did decide differently, we should still have cause to wonder, because almost every choice we make means passing up many other possible choices.  No doubt all of us have some regrets and misgivings, and no doubt all of us think at times how our decisions could have been wiser and how our lives could have been better.  But one of the greatest wastes in the world is brooding upon the past.

(When one is dealing with addiction issues there is a great tendency to get stuck in the past). This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t regret past error.  It doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t think how we would face a similar situation if we should meet with one again. Nor does it mean that we shouldn’t repent and improve upon the past.  Surely we should and must.  But those who look too much upon the past, those who think too much about what might have been, are running something of the same risk as the driver who keeps his eyes too much upon his rear-view mirror and is inattentive to the road ahead.  Experience is a great teacher.  It is the road we have been over.  But the wrecks in the rear aren’t the ones we are now trying to avoid.  It’s the curves ahead that count now.  Whatever mistakes we have made, whatever debts we have incurred, whatever duties we have deferred, our only way out is ahead.   This is life’s’ inflexible formula.  What has been and might have been may well serve as a warning – but what may yet be is our cause of first concern. - Richard L. Evans

Focus on the future.

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Plant Your Future Picture Seed but State it in the Present Tense

When you write out your Future Picture Statement it is critical that you write it in the present tense as if it were already a reality.  It is important to understand that the unconscious brain simply responds to the program it has been given.  The power of the pre-frontal cortex lies in the fact that it can write the new program and send it to the unconscious brain though consistent application of the daily’s and pro-active present tense affirmations.  To the unconscious brain the part that drives 95% of our behavior everything is in the present.  It cannot distinguish between past present and the future.  If you say “Someday” I’ll do this or that to the unconscious it hears, “I don’t have to worry about that now” and the action is put off.

Remember to “Seize the very first possible opportunity to act on every resolution you make, and on every emotional prompting you may experience in the direction of the habits you aspire to gain.  It is not in the moment of their forming but in the moment of their producing motor effects, that resolves and aspirations communicate the new “set” to the brain.”  -William James

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If I could save time in a bottle

You may have heard it said that you can’t waste time, spend time or save time.

Time is one thing we all have in common.  We all have the same amount of it.  It does not play favorites but allows the same portions to everybody.

Actually, we have no influence on time at all.  It is here and it surrounds us and it continually moves on inspite of us.

What we can waste and do waste is ourselves.  The tragedy and the real waste lie in what we could do and could become, but do not because we allow ourselves to be drawn into the mental and emotional traps of pornography.

It is the grand illusion and can never deliver what it purports to offer and that is intimacy.  It is false intimacy and the great counterfeit of our day.  Participating in pornography not only wastes time it is a wasting yourself!

Time is all you have!  Use it wisely!

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