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Change is an internal process and in a very real sense you are your own creator. Certainly there are many different forces pulling on each of us which we cannot control but we can choose how to respond to them in a personal way. In order to change one must have a vision of what could be compared to what is their reality at the present moment. This is called “developing discrepancy.”
Creating your future picture statement as outlined in the
Innergold Manual will give your mind something to lean toward on a daily basis. When you think about it meaningful change is unlikely to occur without pre-planned purposeful engagement towards things that you set out for yourself. In the process of recovery it is helpful to gently remind yourself of where you are heading. Don’t become frustrated that you are not there yet – just keep moving towards your goals patiently and persistently.
A critical part to any recovery program is to have a plan that you can refer to over and over again. Many who struggle with sexual addiction might get frustrated with plans because they seem to fail over and over again at staying sober. The plan however is critical and a sound thing to return to. It is good to look at slips or relapses and failed attempts not as failure. It just means that you haven’t found the success that you’ve hoped for yet. It is possible to find that success with a sound and dynamic plan. A dynamic plan is something that is always moving and can change from day to day according to your wishes.
One of the core components to the InnerGold Treatment Manual is the daily planning sheet. The daily planning sheet is set up to help you focus on the present day. At the core of the daily planning sheet is a very personalized Future Picture Statement that you create for yourself. The Future Picture Statement is a statement of what you dream you can become in time. It is a powerful personal document that can help lead you in a positive and chosen direction. It is pro-active rather than re-active.
If we do not have a specific plan for ourselves we are walking on thin ice in our current world as it relates to developing addictions. One client put it this way, ”Life is like going on an Easter Egg hunt in a minefield.”
At the top of the daily planning sheet is your Future Picture Statement. Then there is the section that focuses on your daily goals in four main areas: Physical, Emotion, Spiritual and Sexual. It is in this section that you set small measurable and achievable goals for yourself day by day. At the bottom of the daily planning sheet is a Lessons Learned section where you hold yourself accountable for your daily actions. Unless you have a pro-active and self-chosen path to follow you will spend your time in re-active mode, which is opening yourself up to many unsolicited and unwanted things. Wherever you are at in the recovery process this is something that you have the power to do. Start incorporating this daily planning procedure in your life an it will help you move in a self chosen direction.
“He who every morning plans the transaction of the day and follows out that plan, carries a thread that will guide him through the maze of the most busy life. But where no plan is laid, where the disposal of time is surrendered merely to the change of incidence, chaos will soon reign.” – Victor Hugo (1802-1885)
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