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Ships Are Safe in the Harbor but That’s Not What Ships Were Made For

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Ships are not built to stay in Harbors

The reason it is so hard to be happy is they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.    -Parcel Pagnol

Please remember that if you are trying, if you haven’t given up then you are in the process of becoming a better person.

I often hear from others how frustrated they are with themselves.  They wish they were so much better than they perceive they are.

… give yourself a break and keep moving forward.

A friend of mine who is quick with metaphors once remarked. 

“Life is a lot like going on an Easter Egg hunt in a minefield.”

It takes courage to live and face our weaknesses.  Yes, this life is indeed challenging.  Don’t give up on yourself and keep moving forward.  Remember that a ship is safe in the harbor but that is not what ships are made for, so it is with us.  We may wish to be protected from all the storms of life but it just doesn’t work that way.  Prepare each day by doing your dailies and have the faith that you will be able to weather the storms that come your way.

Remember, you’re that ship that needs to sail.

Have a great day!

 

Refuse to Be a Victim – Porn Addiction Bullies

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This above all, Refuse to be a Victim

The seemingly powerful bully (addict) soon disappears when you develop yourself internally and start changing thoughts that belittle into thoughts that build you up.  Bullies and victim attract each other and hence the cycle of addiction.  The part of you that wants to stop needs to show a little more resolve and confidence.  The bully (addict) knows that threatening you causes you to create all kinds of crazy scenarios in your mind till, ideally (for the bully) your anxiety and stress paralyzes you and you give in to the bully’s demands.  When you refuse to be a victim inside, the bully will lose its attraction to you.  In other words the addictive voice will become smaller and smaller as you simply refuse to be a victim to it any longer. Accept and acknowledge the fact that IT is there and continue to move forward in a positive direction without acting out behaviorally.

You can do this one day at a time and experience a freedom and peace as of yet unknown to you.

Press forward with a determination and resolve that you are no longer going to give into, IT.

Have a great day!

I Do Not Look at Porn Today

January 11th, 2012 1 comment

One client who has been sober for over one year recently wrote:

Porn Addiction Free Life

Joy and happiness because of no more porn.

I do not look at pornography today, I do not masturbate. Two things I honestly thought I could never say before I entered into therapy … I would not be where I am today without the help of therapy and the InnerGold system.  I always had the desire to change, but I lacked the practical daily tools in order to do so.  The knowledge I’ve gained has literally changed every aspect of my life! The InnerGold system is not just a program to complete but a way of life and that has made the difference.”  – Mike P.

Years ago, I had a profound experience that made a lasting impression on my life. The memory of this experience has stuck with me in vivid detail. While attending a local junior college in California, I was offered a custodial position at a beautiful new church building under construction. The work schedule was flexible, which was perfect for me while attending school. The church was nearing completion, and it was my responsibility to make sure the building was immaculate both inside and out. This was truly a beautiful building! The lawn, trees and shrubbery outside were well-kept and looked beautiful. The inside was furnished with all new materials. There was even a full-court basketball gym/cultural hall in the center of the building. The members of the church were excitedly anticipating the dedication of the building so they could begin their activities and worship services there. From the outside it appeared everything was in order.

About two weeks before the dedication of the building, the contractor asked me if I wanted to earn a little extra money.  Being a young and “naive” college student, the thought of a few extra dollars was very appealing so I told him I was interested and asked what the job entailed. The contractor took me to a utility room and pointed to a hatch on the ground. He said, “I need you to go down there and clean out the tunnels that run throughout the building. We need to get that cleaned out before the dedication of the building.” This seemed exciting to me because I had no idea there were tunnels that ran throughout the building.  The contractor informed me I might want to take some knee pads with me since the only way to do the job done was on my hands and knees.  He knew exactly what the job entailed, and I soon learned why he was not doing the job himself. Needless to say, I did not complete all of the job.

Ten years later … I found that nothing more had ever been done to remove the junk. It was even worse than I remembered, the junk is right where it has always been.

We are all like this church building in that we can look beautiful on the outside and keep things that need to be corrected hidden on the inside. Just like the building, as we go through life we pick up emotional and addictive junk; more often than not, we just build over it (deny it) without ever dealing with it in an appropriate manner. Such junk is laying the foundation of addictions and problems in later life.

The foundation where this junk sits is rarely addressed in an appropriate and meaningful manner. Many people simply live the way they always have because that is all they know.

Learn how to clean up that junk and move forward with understanding, education and healing using the InnerGold Treatment System.