Help For Pornography & Sexual Addiction

:: transfered from previous blog – posted by becoming sober ::

A common similarity with porn and sex addicts whom I have met is the following: Most of them are generally very energetic, creative, and talented individuals. I have met many like myself who are technically savvy and have either a vast technology background and/or amazing entrepreneurial skills. Many would call me ADD becuase I like to work on various projects at the same time as a business owner. Why is this relevant? It is becuase before becomming sober in my addictions I used up a HUGE amount of energy in fulfilling my addictive desires.

I have met quite a few people who have found sobriety in sexual and porn addiciton. Many positive changes hold true across the board but one interesting fact in particular is the following: Recovered porn/sex addicts have learned to channel immense amounts of energy into other things. For me…it is my work and family. Before getting help I would simply go throughout the day running my business. I was successful but when my relapses would occur I would spend days and sometimes weeks finding excuses to be lazy and not focus on business growth. When business got stressful or family life got stressful, I turned to porn.

Once I got counseling I learned that some of the worlds most successful people have addictive tenancies but many have learned to channel that addictive energy to more productivity. One technique I learned to channel my addictive energy was applying a saying: “The pain of regret is far greater than the pain of discipline.” Learning to understand the pain of discipline and taking that pain and channeling it, opened up a whole new world. Instead of easily giving in to every addictive trigger and going straight to porn I learned to use that energy in working on business projects and other productive things. Needless to say my current business is more successful and I have 2 other ventures I am working on now.

It’s amazing how much time and energy open up when they are not being spent on hours of porn browsing and addictive behaviors. Not to mention…no more secrecy and deception which were huge energy killers. I would encourage any out there who are getting the life and energy sucked out of them from addiciton to get help becuase it is there. I am forever grateful that I did.

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“Resolve to remain as strong, as determined, and as highly enthused during the darkest night of adversity as you are during the sunniest day of prosperity.  Do not feel disappointed when things seem disappointing.  Keep the eye single upon the same brilliant future regardless of circumstances, conditions, or events. Do not lost heart when things go wrong. Continue undisturbed in your original resolve to make all things go right.”

- Christian D. Larson (1874-1954)

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A seminary professor was vacationing with his wife in Gatlinburg , TN. One morning, they were eating breakfast at a little restaurant, hoping to enjoy a quiet, family meal. While they were waiting for their food, they noticed a distinguished looking, white-haired man moving from table to table, visiting with the guests. The professor leaned over and whispered to his wife, ‘I hope he doesn’t come over here.’ But sure enough, the man did come over to their table.

‘Where are you folks from?’ he asked in a friendly voice.
‘ Oklahoma ,’ they answered.
‘Great to have you here in Tennessee ,’ the stranger said.. ‘What do you do for a living?’
‘I teach at a seminary,’ he replied.

‘Oh, so you teach preachers how to preach, do you? Well, I’ve got a really great story for you.’ And with that, the gentleman pulled up a chair and sat down at the table with the couple.

The professor groaned and thought to himself, ‘Great .. Just what I need ….another preacher story!’

The man started, ‘See that mountain over there? (pointing out the restaurant window). Not far from the base of that mountain, there was a boy born to an unwed mother. He had a hard time growing up, because every place he went, he was always asked the same question, ‘Hey boy, Who’s your daddy?’ Whether he was at school, in the grocery store or drug store, people would ask the same question, ‘Who’s your daddy?’

He would hide at recess and lunch time from other students. He would avoid going in to stores because that question hurt him so bad. ‘When he was about 12 years old, a new preacher came to his church. He would always go in late and slip out early to avoid hearing the question, ‘Who’s your daddy?’

But one day, the new preacher said the benediction so fast that he got caught and had to walk out with the crowd.

Just about the time he got to the back door, the new preacher, not knowing anything about him, put his hand on his shoulder and asked him, ‘Son, who’s your daddy?’

The whole church got deathly quiet. He could feel every eye in the church looking at him Now everyone would finally know the answer to the question, ‘Who’s your daddy?’

‘This new preacher, though, sensed the situation around him and using discernment that only the Holy Spirit could give, said the following to that scared little boy.. ‘Wait a minute! I know who you are! I see the family resemblance now, You are a child of God.’With that he patted the boy on his shoulder and said, ‘Boy, you’ve got a great inheritance. Go and claim it.’

‘With that, the boy smiled for the first time in a long time and walked out the door a changed person. He was never the same again. Whenever anybody asked him, ‘Who’s your Daddy?’ he’d just tell them , ‘I’m a Child of God..”

The distinguished gentleman got up from the table and said, ‘Isn’t that a great story?’The professor responded that it really was a great story!

As the man turned to leave, he said, ‘You know, if that new preacher hadn’t told me that I was one of God’s children, I probably never would have amounted to anything!’ And he walked away..

The seminary professor and his wife were stunned.. He called the waitress over & asked her, ‘Do you know who that man was — the one who just left that was sitting at our table?’

The waitress grinned and said, ‘Of course.. Everybody here knows him. That’s Ben Hooper. He’s Governor of Tennessee !’

- Author Unknown

‘The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of God stands forever.’ ~~Isaiah

YOU’RE ONE OF GOD’S CHILDREN!!!
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