Help For Pornography & Sexual Addiction

:: transferred from previous blog – posted by becoming sober ::

I was listening to a well known program where individuals call in looking for professional advise. Most of the time the advise is good. One specific person called in with the following problem: He got caught by his wife looking at porn. He had been looking at porn for over 18 months. He said that his wife was frustrated and felt betrayed. He was looking for help. The radio host downplayed the problem with pornography and said there must be something else creating the wife wanting to leave. The caller said that he honestly couldn’t think of anything and that it was the porn issue. He told the host that he wanted help and the host again downplayed his porn issue and said that there must be some other reason why the wife would want to leave. The frustrated caller said that he wanted help to stay away from porn and then got cut off due to a break in the show.

As a listener I was going crazy! I couldn’t believe that this confused and torn man was being told his porn problem was not the issue. IT WAS THE ISSUE! This man was pleading for help but since porn is viewed as “acceptable” to so many people, he got shut down and more discouraged. He literally started to cry on the air. He wanted help. So many people today are being told that porn is not a problem or addictive. This is a flat out lie! Millions are getting divorced, losing jobs, and destroying themselves and others due to porn and sex addiction. A major problem is that so many people are addicted to porn that they justify their own problems by downplaying it. It is temporarily easier to ignore porn addiction or play like it is not a real issue than facing its destructive nature head on. The crap always hits the fan eventually. ALWAYS! You can justify for only so long until pornography destroys. There is help out there. It is possible to become sober and get away from porn. Instead of justifying, let’s start solving the problem and that starts with ourselves.

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My husband is looking at pornography. How can he possibly or does he still love me?

… in most instances, yes he does.

A difference between men and women is men generally are not emotionally involved with pornography.

It is just the visual of the body.

Talk with your spouse to see what you can do to help.

Should I engage at looking at pornography with him?

… NO! The end result is frustration, irritation and does not form the bond with one another.

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A Blue Bird singing at the top of a tree saw a man walking through the woods holding a little box. He asked the man, “What do you have in the box?”

The man said, “Worms. I will sell you a worm for one feather.” The Blue Bird plucked out one feather and took his worm and said to himself, “Why work when it’s so easy to get food this way?” After many days, there were no more feathers to pay for the worms.

By now the Blue Bird could no longer fly, and he was so ashamed of his appearance that he no longer sang pretty songs.

Like the Blue Bird, we may seek instant gratification from the things the world might offer but we will find the price is too high, and eventually learn that there are no short-cuts to mental and spiritual health. Remember that one can never get enough of what they don’t really need because what they don’t really need will never truly satisfy them.

Pornography is like the worms in the box. Every time you partake a beautiful part of yourself is given up in return. Luckily in a spiritual sense you can reclaim your feathers through the process of repentance and change. Reclaim your feathers now!

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