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“Our destiny is not mapped out for us by some exterior power; we map it out for ourselves. What we think and do in the present determines what shall happen to us in the future. There is nothing in your life that you cannot modify, change, or improve when you learn to regulate your thought.” – Christian Larson (1874-1954)
What you think about and do today, affects tomorrow. What has been your thoughts today? Is this who you want to be tomorrow and in the future?
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“People may wonder why anybody would want to run a distance race. What fun is it? Why all the hard, exhausting work? Where does it get you? It is one of the strange ironies of this strange life that those who work the hardest, who subject themselves to the strictest discipline, who give up certain pleasurable things in order to achieve a goal, are the happiest men.”
-Brutus Hamilton
Remember in your daily journey that there is a huge difference between instant gratification and lasting peace. Someone once said that the hallmark of emotional intelligence is the ability to delay instant gratification. Accept what you cannot control and discipline yourself to manage what you can. Triggers mean nothing – it is what you choose to do with them that matters. Lean into the wind and move forward.
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With sexual/pornography addiction counseling making new inroads there is more information that ever available to help addicts. Many of these programs are focusing on the makeup of the brain, understanding how sex/porn addiction alters the brain, and methods to heal and strengthen the brain to become sober from porn. Innergold focuses on the 2 part brain and gives the tools necessary for lifelong sobriety. I agree that programs like this are the best proven way to gain sobriety. Similar systems out there are advertising a “CURE” to the addiction. I 100% agree that one can become sober for life; however, I cannot agree with the notion that there is a “6 week cure.” This “cure” mindset played into my own addiction and made it worse before I found Innergold. I have learned that sobriety from addiction is a process and not an event. It requires lifelong diligence to the tools given to stay sober. It gets easier and more routine as time goes on, but it is a process. Ironically, these systems also advertise ongoing support for a monthly fee. Obviously they believe in the ongoing nature of addiciton but advertise it as a “cure” for whatever reasons. I agree that ongoing support is necessary. Addicts must follow the daily habits and practices used to maintain sobriety for a lifetime.
Other systems out there take a spiritual/ecclesiastical only approach and although I agree that a higher power and spiritual balance is a vital part of the process, it is not the only piece.
Addictive tenancies don’t simply disappear after a few weeks of counseling. The triggers and burning do not suddenly go away one day. That is key to accepting and surrendering the addiction. Until this acceptance and surrender takes place sobriety is usually short-term followed by deeper relapses. Over time, triggers can be greatly reduced. I know that from experience. I wish as much as any other addict that there were some cure out there that could guarantee one will never have addictive triggers again. After being sober for a couple years, I have noticed a HUGE drop in triggers and the difficult times but they are still there occasionally. I have the tools and systems in place that help me stay on track though.
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